I don’t know the science behind why, but I do know that I am not willing to suppress my emotions.
If I feel happiness, I let it flow in whatever way it wants to go and hope it infects others.
If I’m sad, I feel the full extent of it but I try to avoid others lest it affect them negatively.
If I’m angry, well, that’s a place where I have to be careful. It’s not that I suppress the feeling, but I have to make a choice as to how I express it, if at all.
The danger lies in hurting someone else when I myself am hurt.
That venomous weapon that draws blood from my heart can too easily be pulled out and thrown with my fingertips or my tongue at someone else. Then we’re both poisoned and bleeding.
Oh yes, I’ve been guilty, and, oh yes, I’ve had to attempt emotional surgical repair. It doesn’t always fix. I prefer to avoid breaking people in the first place.
Given time, thought, prayer, and the application of wisdom from God’s people, the potency of anger diminishes. The desire to lash out fades. Damage has been averted. The consideration for the wellbeing of others – or, love – has won.
I think of the scene in the movie Ratatouille, where Linguini says something to his co-workers that disturbs them. Collette is angered by it. With pain in her face, she raises her hand as though to slap Linguini. But then she makes the decision to bring her hand down and she walks away. Because she loves him.
“If you become angry, do not let your anger lead you into sin, and do not stay angry all day. ” (Ephesians 4:26, Good News Translation)
There’s surely more to be said on this. Maybe you have some thoughts to share.
Here’s something someone else wrote: What does the Bible say about anger?
Here’s something I wrote on feeling too much: They Who Feel Too Much
Soon enough, the messed-up emotions and their accompanying temptations toward harmful actions will be a thing of the past, and my cry of “Maranatha” will be exchanged for an eternal “Hallelujah!” I hope you are there with me.